A Has Was Once An Are

“I’d rather be a could-be if I cannot be an are; because a could-be is a maybe who is reaching for a star. I’d rather be a has-been than a might-have-been, by far; for a might-have-been has never been, but a has was once an are.”
-Milton Berle

Oh, that we would all do what we want to do or even dream about.  I have often looked back on my life and wondered why I did or didn’t do a certain thing.  Although I’m afraid, most of the time I am wondering to myself why I didn’t do a certain thing. 

It’s not that I didn’t want to do it, or that I wasn’t capable of doing it, but that I just didn’t do it.   The many things that I could have done, or should have done, or might have done just keep piling up.  And when I look back I get sick to my stomach just to think about it.  I hate the “I could have” or “I should have” thoughts.

Go to any health club and ask one of the trainers what the busiest time of year is, they will all tell you that the busiest time of year is January.  Why?  Because everyone is making a New Year’s resolutions to get fit and trim.  They go religiously to the Gym on the first of the year and start fresh to get fit and trim.  They do it with all the vim and vigor of a fresh new start.  They try with all their might to keep to it, only to fall back to the old habits by February.  Another “would have” “could Have”.

One year I said to myself that I would record an album for that year.  I sing, many people have asked me over the years when I was going to or if I was ever going to record an album.  They’d surely buy it if I did.  Well that year came and went and NO album.  Funny thing is, not even a single song was recorded.

I have so many excuses why it didn’t happen – but who cares about why it didn’t happen. The fact is it didn’t happen.  I can’t go back and make it happen – into the past that is.  I could have made it happen then but I can’t go back and make it happen in the past now.  I can only be in charge of what happens in my life now.

That’s just the point – your now’s create your futures.  Your has was once an are.  And only you can decide what your has-beens or was’s were/are.  Understand?  Only you can choose.  Only you.

And along with that if you are not happy with what is – you must recognize it was you who chose you to be right there.  Only you.  Play the blame game.  Go ahead and point your finger at someone else for your discontent. Go right ahead, but no matter how much blaming and finger pointing you do – the truth is still the truth.  You chose – only you!

Get it?  Got it!  Good!