Creators Create While Right Fighters Fight
I don’t know who coined the phrase “right fighters,” but I bet if you’re reading this you know exactly the kind of people I’m talking about. Why, you might even be one of them. You see, a right fighter is someone who at all costs must be right.
A right fighter will sacrifice happiness, peace, friendship, and almost anything to be right. A right fighter will argue till the last drop of blood has been spilt. A right fighter would rather be right than happy.
Are you a right fighter?
When it comes to discussions with other people do you always have to be right? Do your ideas always have to be validated and heard? Does your need to be right become more important than your need to be happy? Or do you are erroneously belief that being right will make you happy?
I was once a right fighter. I used to sacrifice happiness all the time in order to prove my point’s, in order to be heard, or to be validated. It didn’t matter what I was fighting for I had to be right. I would fight with my mother, I would fight with my father, I would fight with my wife, I would fight with my coworkers, and anybody in order to be right. I didn’t care if I hurt other people’s feelings, it didn’t matter to me if I made others angry, all I really wanted was to be right.
Did I mention that I sacrificed my happiness? That was probably the dumbest thing I’ve ever done. I would fight to be right thinking that that would make me happy, but the truth was I never really was happy. I had conquered too many people, had fought with too many people in order to be right. And by the time the skirmishes were over there were way too many casualties to experience happiness.
So I ask you again, are you all right fighter?
Here’s a few signs that indicate that you might be a right fighter:
- You feel angry if people don’t listen to you
- You don’t listen to other people’s point’s of view
- You don’t care about other people’s ideas
- You think that your ideas are the only ones that matter
If you find yourself guilty of any of these then you might be a right fighter. I don’t want to insult you, so I’ll come right out and say it: being a right fighter is a very sad existence. Especially when being a right fighter destroys so many relationships.
But being the creator doesn’t destroy relationships but creates creation’s that strengthen, and improve, and bless relationships. You see, creators don’t have to be right. Creators create. Creators creates creation’s that are valuable and important not only to themselves but to other people in a relationships.
Let me give you a few ideas of creations that creators create:
- A beautiful day. The creator could decide to create a beautiful day starting with the very moment they wake up in the morning. They roll over and give their partner kiss and a gentle caress. And then in the shower they hum a happy tune, make a delicious breakfast, and then plan the rest of their beautiful day. Then today set out to create it.
- Give the gift of love. Creators create gifts of love for the other people in their relationship. These gifts of love are as simple as a smile or a get well card or a small Post-it note that says thank you, or I was thinking of you. These gifts of love could be a flower picked in the yard, or a funny joke to brighten someone’s day, or a piece of candy. It really doesn’t matter, these gifts of life are just random acts of creation.
- Yield the right-of-way. Since creators are more concerned about creating creations they are not so concerned with being right, therefore, it’s very easy for creators to allow others to be right. In fact, this yielding of being right is a very important piece in the process of creation. Creations require many different pieces in order to be complete, and most times other people’s insights and ideas are integral pieces to the finished creation.
- Joy. Creators love their creations, and bringing their creations into existence is more important than anything to a creator. The reason for this is that true creators experiences euphoria, joy, a happiness like no other when their creation finally exists.
Next time you feel the urge to be right, stop and think for a moment about the creation’s that you would rather create instead. I guarantee you if you create creations of value it won’t be so important to you anymore to be right.
Impossible is Just a Word
Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, something big.
What guy hasn’t fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning home run? What girl hasn’t dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?
We dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, too often our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily become faint memories in the past.
It is truly a sad story – instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day and just barely existing.
You know what? I used to be there. I lived there. And I have a feeling that you are familiar with it all too well. Life could be so much better, if only . . .
If only we learned to aim higher.
The most common problem to achieving our dreams is the word “impossible”. Like me, most people get hung up thinking they can’t do whatever is set before them. It’s too hard. It’s too impossible. No one can do it.
However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment. But thank goodness for the creators who have created these wonderful things that have changed and blessed our lives. Thank goodness indeed!
Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble bee no one has told it so. So it flies anyways.
On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations.
If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.
Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned.
On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.
Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.
Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.
So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.
Creators Set Goals
Ever wonder why some people cacn’t even achieve an inch of what they dream of becoming? Blame it on pure dreaming. I know, that’s what I’ve done for the greater part of twenty years. I have had a lack of setting goals; making plans for achieving my dreams.
Setting goals is a very significant part of success and creating creations. It’s deciding before you set out to create exactly what you want to create in the first place.
People who set goals literally create a map of their target achievements in life, marking where they should begin, where to pause, where to delve a bit deeper, and where and when to stop. Once this map is created, it allows the map drawer to check where he is in the scheme of things and whether or not he is making some achievements that will take him closer to his goals, or whether or not he is heading in the correct direction.
By setting goals, creators know how they are doing and what they should be doing to achieve their targets or dreams in life. They know if they can relax or if they have to double their efforts when they are falling short of what is expected of them.
Goal setting means a person is proactive in dealing with challenges that may affect his creation. Being proactive means one is able to outline possible difficulties that may occur as well as the solutions to those difficulties. By doing this, a person is not easily scared or defeated when challenges occur because he has already prepared for them. He knows they can happen and he has prepared a solution or strategy when that time comes.
Setting goals will enable creators to track their progress in whatever creation they have set out to create. Goals help them become more confident in themselves and more motivated to achieve their plans. Creators don’t procrastinate – they are too passionate about, and desire too much to see their creation exist. Procrastination is a thing of the past.
However, goal setting is not enough, as this should be accompanied by love, faith, and self-discipline. A creator may have a blueprint of what he desires to create, but if he does not have these necessary tools to carry out the plan, then most likely nothing will come out of it.
When a creator loves the idea of what will be created, the creator works voraciously to bring it into existence. Coupled with faith that the thing to be created can and will be created and self-discipline to make it happen. The creation has every chance of coming into existence – living.
To be successful in goal setting, the goals that creators set should be realistic and based on true principles. Being too ambitious in setting up goals can make the goals unrealistic and difficult to achieve. However, creators do not also set goals that are too low because this might discourage their vision instead of achieving it.
It is also necessary that the creator setting the blueprint for his creation should also include a time frame within which the goal will be achieved. This way, he is able to determine if he has to fast track his strategies or to slow down a bit. Goal setting will also help a creator check if he is performing within his plans or if he is doing things towards the achievement of his plans.
Once you have created something, even a little of what you hoped to create, then you should always give yourself a pat in the back to keep you motivated. But do not be too complacent with any little achievement, as this may cause you to backslide.
Setting goals can be used in any aspect of one’s life – from one’s personal or family life, to his career and finances. Goal setting can be as simple as setting a target weight when you wish to lose pounds or something big, like earning your first million.
When setting goals, it is always important to set standards that would suit your present situation, your capabilities, and other factors that may influence the achievement of your goal.
Get out a piece of paper. Write out what you want to create. Get Creating! |
To your creations,
Michael Claridge
MUST DO
I have a bunch of quotes printed up on my wall where I work. One of my favorites is a quote I have attributed to Walt Disney that says, “If you can dream it, you can do it.” I love that quote. Another favorite one is by Charles Spurgeon which says, “By perseverance the snail reached the ark.” That one makes me chuckle, but it’s oh so true – that’s how anything worthwhile has ever come about; by perseverance.
There is one quote that I particularly like that I would like to spend the remainder of this article discussing. I don’t know who said it. I’ve done a search on the Internet to see who might have originally said it and I have not found a source. Here’s the quote:
“If you want what you’ve never had you must do what you’ve never done.”
Nearly every time I read this my head begins to reel with woulda-coulda-shoulda’s. I have had tons of great ideas throughout the years, and I know that many of them would have made me very wealthy. So why am I not very wealthy? Because I didn’t do what was required in order to succeed at whatever the great idea was.
It’s the “MUST DO” part that I fail at. Now don’t get me wrong, I do stuff, even stuff that gets me closer to my desired objective. The problem is that I don’t do what “must” be done.
You see there is a law that works 100% of the time. It is the law of cause and effect, otherwise known as the law of the harvest, which states that what you sow you will reap. If you plant corn seeds you get corn plants not coconut trees.
That is what I was doing, I was planting the wrong seeds. XYZ idea required XYZ actions. I was ABC actions and expecting XYZ objective. You know the definition of insanity don’t you? Doing what you’ve always done and expecting different results.
I was insane.
Sound familiar? Or maybe you are as diluted as I am and convinced yourself that you indeed were planting XYZ seeds. Be honest, did you really? Or did you do what I did? I planted an X seed or an XY seed and tried to pass it off as a XYZ seed.
The law of the harvest is precise. Plant corn get corn. It really doesn’t get any more complicated than that. But like I said, we try to pass off what must be done with other stuff and expect our results to be our objective.
Buckminster Fuller said,”You never change the existing reality by fighting it. Instead, create a new model that makes the old one obsolete.”
If your existing reality isn’t what you were expecting stop fooling yourself. Realize that you are doing the wrong things. Start doing the thing that “must” be done to bring about your desired creation. And then stick to it until it becomes the reality you desire.
Easier said than done, I know, but that is the way these universal laws work. Remember they work 100% of the time too. There is no fooling them, or side stepping them.
| Today I want you to pick out one objective (creation) that you can focus you attention on.FOCUS – Follow One Course Until SuccessfulNow, focus on it and do what you “MUST DO” to create it. Nothing wavering. Onward! |
To your creations,
Michael Claridge
Creations Love Speed
Lately I have noticed a trend among the gurus. They are all talking about speed. Here, let me list a few of their quotes:
Bob Bly in an article entitled “The Best Business Advice You’ll Ever Get” said, “An idea has no value by itself … It only gains value when you put it into action. And too many of us … are better at thinking about doing things … than we are at actually doing them.”
Joe Vitale said, “Money loves speed.”
Robert Ringer said, “Success loves speed.”
Mike Litman “You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it going.”
Michael Masterson, “Ready, Fire, Aim.”
Mark Twain commented once, “Find out where the people are going, and get there first.”
And you can probably recall a few more yourselves. All great quotes on the theme of speed. What does speed have to do with creating? I’d like to discuss that with you.
Have you ever had an idea that you thought was the most fantastic idea you’d ever had? You’d do it and make millions. But you procrastinated – only to find out that someone else had a similar idea and they had actually done it; making you feel like a total loser. I have had that happen so many times I’d be a gazillionaire by now if I’d only followed through with my ideas.
Have you had the same happen to you? Why? Because instead of applying speed you applied the seat –cushion-to-your-butt routine instead. You procrastinated, you held off, you were afraid, you didn’t move fast. Quite simply you didn’t move. Remember action requires that you move – forward preferably.
I know, like I said I have had that happen too many times. Perhaps it’s because I take too much after my Dad. He can think of every reason in the world why something can’t be done. My Dad has his Doctorate in education so he is no dummy either. When he puts his mind to something you pretty much know that he’s thought it through thoroughly. So if he lists reasons why something can’t be done you best believe him – right?
His reasons are always very logical and conventional. And he’s usually correct. But you know what? According to the gurus that’s what failure is all about. My Dad says that xyz will happen – so what. Get it going – move towards your creation, begin taking actions that will get you closer to your creation and let xyz happen, in the process you’ll learn ways to deal with xyz or how to get around xyz, or how to make xyz work for you, you may even find that xyz is an integral part of your creation. Regardless, stop letting xyz paralyze you with fear so that you don’t take any action at all.
Speed is where you will have success. Do it NOW. All great creations were created by doing not by wishing, not by thinking, not by waiting for better circumstances to happen upon the scene, and definitely not by procrastinating. Creators create!
How many of you use Microsoft products? How many of you have owned an imperfect Microsoft product? Bill Gates doesn’t wait till it’s perfect before he puts it out there on the market. He just gets it going and then puts it out there on the market and fixes it as he goes. If he had waited till it was perfect we probably would have never had Windows, and he probably wouldn’t be the richest man on earth either. Like it or not, Microsoft did not make Bill Gates so successful because of perfection. That’s an example to learn from.
Fear of failure or success is crippling. It has stopped many a would-be success dead in their tracks. Know this truth: Fear will never create! One of the most important elements of creation is faith. Faith and fear are eternal enemies which lie on opposite ends of the spectrum. They cannot coexist in the same space simultaneously. Fear never lets you get enough momentum to get your butt out of the recliner.
You can always find a reasonable excuse to remain motionless. Creation requires movement, great creations not only love speed, great creations require speed! And great creators create great creations!
| OK admit it, you have several ideas that you have been putting off for whatever reasons. Granted they may even be good reasons, but today’s assignment we are going to look convention in the face and ignore those reasons.Choose one of your ideas and do one big thing towards its accomplishment. That’s right, stop making excuses and start moving towards that creation.Do it NOW! Fast! Hurry! |
To your creations,
Michael Claridge
